Tuesday, December 10, 2013

To Do List.

I have no clue who wrote this. Never met the person, never 

heard of the person but I love the broad spectrum of the to-do 


1. Make peace with your parents. Whether you finally recognize

that they actually have your best interests in mind or you

forgive them for being flawed human beings, you can’t happily

enter adulthood with that familial brand of resentment.

2. Kiss someone you think is out of your league; kiss models and

med students and entrepreneurs with part-time lives in Dubai

and don’t worry about if they’re going to call you afterward.

3. Minimize your passivity.

4. Work a service job to gain some understanding of how

tipping works, how to keep your cool around assholes, how a

few kind words can change someone’s day.

5. Recognize freedom as a 5:30 a.m. trip to the diner with a

 bunch of strangers you’ve just met.

6. Try not to beat yourself up over having obtained a ‘useless’

Bachelor’s Degree. Debt is hell, and things didn’t pan out quite

 like you expected, but you did get to go to college, and having a

 degree isn’t the worst thing in the world to have. We will figure

this mess out, I think, probably; the point is you’re not worth

less just because there hasn’t been an immediate pay off for

going to school. Be patient, work with what you have, and

remember that a lot of us are in this together.

7. If you’re employed in any capacity, open a savings account.

You never know when you might be unemployed or in

desperate need of getting away for a few days. Even $10 a week

 is $520 more a year than you would’ve had otherwise.

8. Make a habit of going outside, enjoying the light, relearning

 your friends, forgetting the internet.

9. Go on a 4-day, brunch-fueled bender.

10. Start a relationship with your crush by telling them that you

 want them. Directly. Like, look them in the face and say it to

them. Say, I want you. I want to be with you.

11. Learn to say ‘no’ — to yourself. Don’t keep wearing high

heels if you hate them; don’t keep smoking if you’re disgusted

by the way you smell the morning after; stop wasting entire

days on your couch if you’re going to complain about missing

the sun.

12. Take time to revisit the places that made you who you are:

 the apartment you grew up in, your middle school, your

 hometown. These places may or may not be here forever; you

definitely won’t be.

13. Find a hobby that makes being alone feel lovely and

empowering and like something to look forward to.

14. Think you know yourself until you meet someone better

than you.

15. Forget who you are, what your priorities are, and how a

 person should be.

16. Identify your fears and instead of letting them dictate your

 every move, find and talk to people who have overcome them.

 Don’t settle for experiencing .000002% of what the world has

 to offer because you’re afraid of getting on a plane.

17. Make a habit of cleaning up and letting go. Just because it fit

 at one point doesn’t mean you need to keep it forever —

 whether ‘it’ is your favorite pair of pants or your ex.

18. Stop hating yourself.

19. Go out and watch that movie, read that book, listen to that

 band you already lied about watching, reading, listening to.

20. Take advantage of health insurance while you have it.

21. Make a habit of telling people how you feel, whether it

 means writing a gushing fan-girl email to someone whose work

 you love or telling your boss why you deserve a raise.

22. Date someone who says, “I love you” first.

23. Leave the country under the premise of “finding yourself.”

 This will be unsuccessful. Places do not change people. Instead,

 do a lot of solo drinking, read a lot of books, have sex in dirty

 hostels, and come home when you start to miss it.

24. Suck it up and buy a Macbook Pro.

25. Quit that job that’s making you miserable, end the

 relationship that makes you act like a lunatic, lose the friend

 whose sole purpose in life is making you feel like you’re

perpetually on the verge of vomiting. You’re young, you’re

resilient, there are other jobs and relationships and friends if

you’re patient and open.

— January Nelson, 06/25/12 

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